Новата година в Китай
сряда, 30 декември 2009 г.
понеделник, 28 декември 2009 г.
Порочен кръг на човешки взаимоотношения
Статията на Юлиян Марианов разглежда оплакването като част от порочния кръг от човешки взаимоотношения, при което се търси съчувствие от страна на пострадалия. Например, майка се оплаква пред децата си от бащата или обратно. Извиква се негативна енергия срещу близкия човек и отрицателното отношение към него се засилва. Получава се настройване един срещу друг. Доколко тази форма на общуване наврежда на колектива и има ли възможност потърпевшите да излязат от своята ситуация без да се обръщат за споделяне към свой близък или колега.Как да премълчаваме и можем ли да понасяме тежки семейни конфликти. Това обяснение се прилага при терапия на семейните взаимоотношения.
Triangulation as a form of Twisted Intimacy
Triangulation
From Unification Family Therapy
Triangulation is the game of involving others in our
negative emotional feelings against someone else!!!
It is a specific form of multiplication of evil, using the deepest moments of heartistic sharing to transmit negative feelings in the hearts of those who compassionately listen. It fills ones need for intimacy, excuses his guilty conscience and helps create evil alliances that will finally destroy unity and trust in the organization or the family where they are used. Professional players will get highest effect with list effort. Since it is a very emotional and heartistic, unconscious process, it is very difficult to revile the one who started it. One who rationally attempts to stop this process will find himself very vulnerable to accusations that he is the one spreading negativity, or that he is simply mislead by the other party. Thus any attempt of stopping this negative process will bring more intensity into the game. For this reason it is of great importance to clearly understand and uncover the core motivations and process of Triangulation.
Note: People who did not experience Triangulations in their own family of origin will naturally feel that this is something wrong and negative. However they will be confused and unable to do anything to stop or prevent the process. On the other side people who experienced that from childhood will naturally find each other and feel the heartistic common base. Once they start triangulating they will get the sense of real heartistic unity, "Oh finally someone we totally understand each other", "We can share everything with each other", "We are so united and hartistic." Since that is precisely the intimacy they learned to receive as children they are unable to distinguish its evil and destructive nature, because it is unreliable part of their core of existence - their hearts!
Triangulation at the Fall
1. Lucifer aligned with God's children
2. Gradually leading them against Him
3. Than using that to criticize God
Example of Family Triangulation
1. Mother struggles with father
2. Transmits negative emotions to the child
3. Aligns with the child against the father
4. The child expresses critical attitude to father
5. Mother uses that as further excuse to accuse him and undermine his authority
6. The child disrespects authority
7. Father further withdraws from the family
Note: Though emotions would be easily transmitted between mother and child, their relationship will grow more and more explosive with the child's growth. This is because there is no emotional maturity and independence developed. Instead there is extreme emotional dependence, to the point of no much individual freedom. In psychology that is called "Enmeshed behavior" and is regarded as the bases for schizophrenia.
Triangulations in the Work
1. People will spread rumors and form unofficial groups against each other.
2. Every act or comment will be ironically discussed and criticized.
3. The pain from that reality will grow and make them Triangulate even more intensively.
4. Once making more people negative they will use that as excuse to accuse even more.
Note: This will be done simple to fill the time with some talk, yet in effect will create barriers and internal struggles and enormous pain in their hearts. They will create their own hell without even realizing their own contribution to that. So in stead of ending this vicious games, they will just pure more and more oil into the fire. The more oil they pure, the more they will think the other side is guilty for the fire. Triangulation in the work place is only extension of the Triangulations learned in the family of origin.
Triangulation Distorts the Heart
1. Searching for Intimacy to share negativity
2. Poisonous vitality elements for the spirit
3. It becomes like a drug addiction for our spirit
4. It becomes the only way to form unity and feel love and trust
Note: Often people addicted to triangulation will have no much to say, and will not start trusting others until they find a common base for triangulation. Than suddenly they will become very lively, inspired and get the faulty sense of trust, which will have to be protected with more and more rumors and accusations against others, to keep sure of their alliances and protect from heir conscience accusing them. The more their conscience tells them this is wrong, the more they will triangulate to excuse their own conscience multiplying the same negative feeling in the hearts of others.
Triangulation is exactly the opposite of the principle of True Love (Give and forget). The more one spreads negative feeling in other's hearts the more hell overtakes his heart. It is a vicious cycle that harbors more and more power with each give and take of triangulation. It starts dominating our hearts and the only escape one finds from the inner hell is to Triangulate even more.
"Can you imagine how God felt as He looked upon fallen humanity in such a position? This is something you need to understand… Human beings today are not God's children. No matter how much God weeps, we pretend not to see His gears. No matter how sorrowful He is, we pretend not to see. This is because the human race springs from the flesh and blood of Satan."
True Father's Insights on God
Lesson from the Fall
From Unification Family Therapy
The Origin of Triangulation
We find it in the very nature of the fall. Lucifer triangulated with God's children in order to isolate and dominate even God. This way he twisted their hearts towards destructive selfishness.
Lucifer
feeling hurt in his jealousy
|
| Share his feeling
|
Eve
feeling compassion to him
The Correct Reaction
Eve was not supposed to listen to him humanisticaly and accept his feelings. Instead she was supposed to rationally correct him, if necessary even scorn him for his self-centered view and feelings.
Divine Principle states that humankind "inherited from the Archangel all the proclivities incidental to his transgression against God". These proclivities have become the root of the fallen inclinations in all people.
Two Step Process
1. Misinterprets others words and actions, and feel hurt by them.
2. Harbor negative thoughts and feelings and transmit them to others in deep heartistic sharing.
(This is the first and the forth fallen natures, but in the process this is the way of leaving ones position and reversing the dominion)
(This pattern is very characteristic of Schizophrenic Families)
Evil Triangulation
In intimate heartistic moments, transmit negative emotions, as indirect accusations: "he hurt me this way", or "he hurt her this way…".
1. Deep heartistic negative sharing
2. On humanistic, very external , self-centered base. -
3. Luck of logical or Principle arguments
4. Strongly emotional, "How it makes them feel…"
Vicious Cycle That Never Ends
The attempted solution only exaggerates the problem - an endless and vicious cycle that brings us to Hell.
Feel afraid
of being reviled and accused.
|
| One triggers
| the other
Spread rumors
to feel secure and protected.
In God's Ideal
God's Ideal is a society of open heart, in freedom to relate without fear. A society where we feel the security of being accepted, not constantly accused or critiqued… and involved in some Triangles (rumors, critiques, accusations, intrigues).
Triangulation as a form of Twisted Intimacy
Triangulation
From Unification Family Therapy
Triangulation is the game of involving others in our
negative emotional feelings against someone else!!!
It is a specific form of multiplication of evil, using the deepest moments of heartistic sharing to transmit negative feelings in the hearts of those who compassionately listen. It fills ones need for intimacy, excuses his guilty conscience and helps create evil alliances that will finally destroy unity and trust in the organization or the family where they are used. Professional players will get highest effect with list effort. Since it is a very emotional and heartistic, unconscious process, it is very difficult to revile the one who started it. One who rationally attempts to stop this process will find himself very vulnerable to accusations that he is the one spreading negativity, or that he is simply mislead by the other party. Thus any attempt of stopping this negative process will bring more intensity into the game. For this reason it is of great importance to clearly understand and uncover the core motivations and process of Triangulation.
Note: People who did not experience Triangulations in their own family of origin will naturally feel that this is something wrong and negative. However they will be confused and unable to do anything to stop or prevent the process. On the other side people who experienced that from childhood will naturally find each other and feel the heartistic common base. Once they start triangulating they will get the sense of real heartistic unity, "Oh finally someone we totally understand each other", "We can share everything with each other", "We are so united and hartistic." Since that is precisely the intimacy they learned to receive as children they are unable to distinguish its evil and destructive nature, because it is unreliable part of their core of existence - their hearts!
Triangulation at the Fall
1. Lucifer aligned with God's children
2. Gradually leading them against Him
3. Than using that to criticize God
Example of Family Triangulation
1. Mother struggles with father
2. Transmits negative emotions to the child
3. Aligns with the child against the father
4. The child expresses critical attitude to father
5. Mother uses that as further excuse to accuse him and undermine his authority
6. The child disrespects authority
7. Father further withdraws from the family
Note: Though emotions would be easily transmitted between mother and child, their relationship will grow more and more explosive with the child's growth. This is because there is no emotional maturity and independence developed. Instead there is extreme emotional dependence, to the point of no much individual freedom. In psychology that is called "Enmeshed behavior" and is regarded as the bases for schizophrenia.
Triangulations in the Work
1. People will spread rumors and form unofficial groups against each other.
2. Every act or comment will be ironically discussed and criticized.
3. The pain from that reality will grow and make them Triangulate even more intensively.
4. Once making more people negative they will use that as excuse to accuse even more.
Note: This will be done simple to fill the time with some talk, yet in effect will create barriers and internal struggles and enormous pain in their hearts. They will create their own hell without even realizing their own contribution to that. So in stead of ending this vicious games, they will just pure more and more oil into the fire. The more oil they pure, the more they will think the other side is guilty for the fire. Triangulation in the work place is only extension of the Triangulations learned in the family of origin.
Triangulation Distorts the Heart
1. Searching for Intimacy to share negativity
2. Poisonous vitality elements for the spirit
3. It becomes like a drug addiction for our spirit
4. It becomes the only way to form unity and feel love and trust
Note: Often people addicted to triangulation will have no much to say, and will not start trusting others until they find a common base for triangulation. Than suddenly they will become very lively, inspired and get the faulty sense of trust, which will have to be protected with more and more rumors and accusations against others, to keep sure of their alliances and protect from heir conscience accusing them. The more their conscience tells them this is wrong, the more they will triangulate to excuse their own conscience multiplying the same negative feeling in the hearts of others.
Triangulation is exactly the opposite of the principle of True Love (Give and forget). The more one spreads negative feeling in other's hearts the more hell overtakes his heart. It is a vicious cycle that harbors more and more power with each give and take of triangulation. It starts dominating our hearts and the only escape one finds from the inner hell is to Triangulate even more.
"Can you imagine how God felt as He looked upon fallen humanity in such a position? This is something you need to understand… Human beings today are not God's children. No matter how much God weeps, we pretend not to see His gears. No matter how sorrowful He is, we pretend not to see. This is because the human race springs from the flesh and blood of Satan."
True Father's Insights on God
Lesson from the Fall
From Unification Family Therapy
The Origin of Triangulation
We find it in the very nature of the fall. Lucifer triangulated with God's children in order to isolate and dominate even God. This way he twisted their hearts towards destructive selfishness.
Lucifer
feeling hurt in his jealousy
|
| Share his feeling
|
Eve
feeling compassion to him
The Correct Reaction
Eve was not supposed to listen to him humanisticaly and accept his feelings. Instead she was supposed to rationally correct him, if necessary even scorn him for his self-centered view and feelings.
Divine Principle states that humankind "inherited from the Archangel all the proclivities incidental to his transgression against God". These proclivities have become the root of the fallen inclinations in all people.
Two Step Process
1. Misinterprets others words and actions, and feel hurt by them.
2. Harbor negative thoughts and feelings and transmit them to others in deep heartistic sharing.
(This is the first and the forth fallen natures, but in the process this is the way of leaving ones position and reversing the dominion)
(This pattern is very characteristic of Schizophrenic Families)
Evil Triangulation
In intimate heartistic moments, transmit negative emotions, as indirect accusations: "he hurt me this way", or "he hurt her this way…".
1. Deep heartistic negative sharing
2. On humanistic, very external , self-centered base. -
3. Luck of logical or Principle arguments
4. Strongly emotional, "How it makes them feel…"
Vicious Cycle That Never Ends
The attempted solution only exaggerates the problem - an endless and vicious cycle that brings us to Hell.
Feel afraid
of being reviled and accused.
|
| One triggers
| the other
Spread rumors
to feel secure and protected.
In God's Ideal
God's Ideal is a society of open heart, in freedom to relate without fear. A society where we feel the security of being accepted, not constantly accused or critiqued… and involved in some Triangles (rumors, critiques, accusations, intrigues).
сряда, 23 декември 2009 г.
Градината на розите
Вълшебен танц
Малка къщичка в гората,
на полянка сред децата –
там вълшебница се скрила –
фея на цветята
и любимка на зората .
Махат нежно с листенца
радостни цветенца,
кимат весело с главички
и приканват
пойни птички,
заедно с децата,
заиграни в тревата.
На зеленооката поляна
припкат весели дечица –
в рокли, шорти и полички,
в лудешки танц се те въртят –
всички заедно в кръг.
Танц вълшебен на цветята ,
на цветята и зората...
Малката красива фея
долетява лекокрила,
и засмяно благославя
с пръски утринна роса
този ден на радостта.
Розата
На Уилиям Бътлър Иейтс*
Червена роза ми говори
тихо в нощта и главичка свела,
кимва ми с тъга – червена роза
с пaрфюма на пътя ми познат...
пътека на борба и на сурова битка
със злото по света – Розата
зове ни огряна в светлина –
Тя носи ни любов –
победа в небесната съдба.
И виждам нейната усмивка в духа си –
слънчеви лъчи целуват се с небето –
Какво ще стане... да изгубя своите очи
и се предам на красотата,
дълбоко скрита в сърцето ?
* Уилиям Б. Иейтс - Известен ирландски поет и драматург – лауреат на Нобелова награда.
Вечност
Обичате ли рози?
Те излъчват аромат омаен,
с багри, форми всеотдайно,
И носят радост, красота –
не искат нищо от света...
Родени са да носят любовта,
в мълчание
с безкрайна доброта.
И дружелюбно те мълвят :
– Вдъхнете моя аромат!
и махат нежно с главички.
Подчиняват се на пролетта,
лятото и есента – те са тези,
които носят красотата
в любовта.
И не искат нищо от света.
Малка къщичка в гората,
на полянка сред децата –
там вълшебница се скрила –
фея на цветята
и любимка на зората .
Махат нежно с листенца
радостни цветенца,
кимат весело с главички
и приканват
пойни птички,
заедно с децата,
заиграни в тревата.
На зеленооката поляна
припкат весели дечица –
в рокли, шорти и полички,
в лудешки танц се те въртят –
всички заедно в кръг.
Танц вълшебен на цветята ,
на цветята и зората...
Малката красива фея
долетява лекокрила,
и засмяно благославя
с пръски утринна роса
този ден на радостта.
Розата
На Уилиям Бътлър Иейтс*
Червена роза ми говори
тихо в нощта и главичка свела,
кимва ми с тъга – червена роза
с пaрфюма на пътя ми познат...
пътека на борба и на сурова битка
със злото по света – Розата
зове ни огряна в светлина –
Тя носи ни любов –
победа в небесната съдба.
И виждам нейната усмивка в духа си –
слънчеви лъчи целуват се с небето –
Какво ще стане... да изгубя своите очи
и се предам на красотата,
дълбоко скрита в сърцето ?
* Уилиям Б. Иейтс - Известен ирландски поет и драматург – лауреат на Нобелова награда.
Вечност
Обичате ли рози?
Те излъчват аромат омаен,
с багри, форми всеотдайно,
И носят радост, красота –
не искат нищо от света...
Родени са да носят любовта,
в мълчание
с безкрайна доброта.
И дружелюбно те мълвят :
– Вдъхнете моя аромат!
и махат нежно с главички.
Подчиняват се на пролетта,
лятото и есента – те са тези,
които носят красотата
в любовта.
И не искат нищо от света.
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